Private Investigating @ Home

It's two am and his dam phone is ringing off the hook, and he hasn't moved one bit.

You shake him, but he's out cold.

"Now who in the hell is callin' him this late", you ask yourself.

Then here comes that voice, "Giiirrrlll, that's that nigga's sideline ho, you need to answer it".

You shake your head, trying to rid yourself of that thought. But it begins to burn in the back of your head like a blazing fire... What do you do?

Scenario A:

You pick up the phone! Shood, its booty call hours and the only thing open at that time of night is someone's legs. You take the phone in the bathroom, so he doesn't hear you, and you check the messages, because you missed the call. And its some girl. Nothing too incriminating, but it still doesn't rub you the right way.

So weeks go by and you keep it up. You read his emails, his texts, you analyze his call log, all the while, you are slowly losing your mind.

Is that any way to live?

Scenario B:

You roll over, and go back to sleep.

The next day, you say, "Yeah, so your phone was ringing off the hook last night"

"Oh really, lemme check it, prolly was just my homie JDub"

You watch his face to see if there is event he slightest change in his expression. You see none.

But you're still suspicious. So you ask to see his phone.

"Whatchu wanna see my phone for? I aint got shit to hide."

But he doesn't hand it over. And you then begin to doubt that he is even telling you the truth about anything.

Scenario C:

You roll over, and go back to sleep.

You don't let it get to you. You simply tell him the next day that there are to be no phone calls after ten in respect for you and your relationship with him.

He complies. And you both live happily ever after...if you believe in that sort of thing..

Now many women would ask, what's wrong with scenario a and b? You were SNOOPING! Let a recovering snooper try to shed some light on the topic. Let's analyze it.

(1) You are too blessed to be stressed over what your man is or isn't doing. If he's cheating, he's gonna cheat. And trust, it will come to your attention, one way or another.

(2) What ever happened to personal privacy? I know it's tempting to read his diary, or check his emails, or take a peek at those texts, but isn't he allowed to have SOME privacy?

(3) Has he given you any reason to not trust him? Has he rushed off the phone, or avoided your calls? I mean honestly, did he even answer the phone any other night that late? Probably not, and if he has, why are you still with him again? Yeah.. that's what I thought

(4) You're the only one losing any sleep over it. You're the only one running around the house cursing under your breath, trying to calm yourself down in preparation for a fight with an imaginary chick (because you don't have any concrete proof "she" is who you think she is) while everyone else is living their lives..

(5) Are you really prepared for what you might find? What if in fact you find out that there is someone else? Whether its just a text from a girl that likes him, or he is in fact involved with someone else, are you emotionally equipped to handle it? Or maybe he has some strange fetish you had no idea he had. You ready?

(6) There is not one thing in the relationship that makes what your doing alright. Just because you moved in together, been together 15 years, have children together, or told each you love each other doesn't mean that it's okay to look through that man's things..

(7) Snooping only adds problems to existing problems and or creates new ones. Looking through his things does not make the relationship more meaningful or more serious. It may, in fact, end the relationship. No man wants an insecure woman.

(8) It shows what type of "lady" you are. Even if you are insecure, don't come off that way. No matter what, your man needs to know that you are secure in who you are and the relationship you are trying to build with him. Shood, women, we are the BEST actresses..

(9) You snooped because you can't trust him, but snooping shows that YOU can't be trusted. Enough said.

(10) Once you go down that road..you can't go back.