The Ghetto Baby Mama:
She meets a guy. He may or may not have a job, but he definitely has a baby mama. She's homely, hasn't had a serious relationship since her baby daddy left her back in '04, and is craving attention. He sweet talks her, notices she has decent credit, so he talks her into getting an apartment with him so she can move out of her mama's house. This is two months into the relationship. Three months in, she gets pregnant. He says ALL the things that she wants to hear. "Girl, we gonna have a family together. Girl, one day you gonna be wifey. Girl I love you." He buys her a cracker jack ring and she's all over it. Six months in, she loses the baby. He doesn't tell anyone that she was even pregnant. Meanwhile, when she's in the hospital alone, he runs a train on a white girl AND a stripper, all in her bed. Good times.. She kicks him out, but lets him stay the night a couple of more times. All the while, complaining about how no good he is, but still she wants him to hold her at night. Whats wrong with this? RED FLAG number one shoulda been the dam baby mama he already had, number two shoulda been the marriage proposal after a couple of months, and number three, the n*gga had sex in YOUR BED..
The Lonely Girl:
She meets a guy in college. Had mind-blowing sex with him cause his dick game was on point. But he was talkin to someone else at the time. She doesn't care cause she was doing her own thing. Years go by, and he occasionally comes by and gives her a little taste, and she begins to catch feelings. He shows up on his time, calls when he is in town, puts it down, then LEAVES. She decides to let him go when she realizes that the feelings aren't mutual. Then he slips into recovery mode. He starts to call a few times more, and then he takes her on a date. He throws the L-word in there, and he figures its a wrap. Uh.. no. But yet, she still answers the phone, knowing that its two in the morning and he wants a piece. Whats the problem with that Kita, you ask? Number one, you've so dick struck that you havent got a chance to get to know him. Number two, you know exactly what he's doing to you and you are LETTING HIM. Hmmm..
The Young Girl:
Fresh outta the jail she calls home. Never had a REAL boyfriend. Just lost her virginity two days before enrolling in college, and doesn't realize her own beauty and worth. She meets a smooth talker. He uses big words and makes her laugh. He tells her that he likes her, but he still has feelings for his ex. He also tells her that he is dealing with the choice between the two. They have great sex, and have fun in the clubs. He dumps her, then he takes her back. He ignores her texts, tells her that they should split before their Xmas break because he can't watch her if she cheats. She constantly asks him if he still loves her. He texts back that it's HER FAULT that he's breaking it off with her cause she wouldn't let him think things over. She's sad and doesnt understand why its over. The issue? Number one, you haven't been out in the real world long enough to know what a relationship should feel like. Number two, he still loves his EX, and he told you from jump! Three, how in the hell is it your fault that he can't make up his mind who he wants to be with?
Ladies, men tell you what to expect from them in the very beginning, with their actions and words. Wake up!
Disclaimer: I'm not perfect, and have made my share of relationship mistakes. My opinions are based on personal experiences and observations. Listen and learn.
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